Friday, October 1, 2010

How to Look & Act In Your 40's

 I really want to get into blogging so I have been spending a lot of time online reading blogs and trying to get some ideas. I came across a great group of "Over 40 Bloggers". They are headed up by a woman called Java who has a blog called "Never Growing Old". It really is a great blog...I suggest you check it out.....
  So here I go again feeling so "misplaced"....I dont know why I cant just feel comfortable with who I am!! Ok, so I am 45 years old. I dont feel 45. I know I dont look 45...I dont act 45...but, really what does it mean to act 45??? Is there a handbook or instructions some where that tell you how you need to act & look when you are in your 40's? And, if there is....who wrote it??? Why is it that if I wanna go out wearing low rise skinny jeans, Ugg boots, and a hoodie,  people look at me and say that I am dressed too young, I must have raided my daughter's closet, I'm having a midlife crisis ....blah, blah, blah, blah.
Maybe I just like those things!!! Can't I like those things? I once had a boss tell me that "Grandma's don't wear hoodies".....Oh, really??? Oh so because I am a grandmother, I should have traded my hoodies in for cardigan sweaters, my Uggs in for orthopedic shoes, and my jeans in for some polyester pants???  Maybe I should shove some Kleenex up my sleeve too. And hey! while I'm at it, maybe I can throw an apron on when I pop those TV dinners in the microwave!!! Who writes these rules? I can't even watch "What Not To Wear" with Stacy London because she says that you can't wear a mini skirt after a certain age. I get so upset. What?? Why can't I? I'm 5'2"...My legs are my best feature. I do wear denim mini skirts....not ones that just cover my ass, I would say they go mid thigh, but if I wore a skirt that went to my knee, it would look ridiculous......I also suspect that somewhere in that instruction manual on "How to Look & Act in Your 40's" it says something about "no piercings".  Yup...did that too!! While on vacation this summer my boys bet me that I didn't have the guts to get my nose pierced....they lost!!! You know what? I love it....Its a small little diamond stud in the crease of my nose....I think it's cute, and I love it!!!

So if the book "How to Look & Act in Your 40's" exists .... someone better let me know where to get it because this Skinny Jean, Hoodie, Ugg wearing, nose pierced 45 year-old grandma needs a copy........there might be some more rules that need to be broken!!!!


  1. Hi Sherry!

    (Sorry ahead of time, cuz I think this comment might be as long as your post! LOL)

    Thanks for stopping by and following my blog! I'm not much more experienced at this than you are, so I'd be happy to share anything that I've learned so far!

    I've had an empty nest for about 3 years now, but I've been home more often than not for several years now, due to having a chronic illness. I'm not housebound, but I have days when I just can't do a whole hell of a lot. I just try to get out and live life as well and as often as I can.

    If there's a manual for looking or acting like a 40 something, then you're not the only one who's missed it! I wear jeans, UGG boots and hoodies too! I'm not a grandmother yet, but I've got 4 years on you, so in reality I'm almost 50 something!

    A very dear friend of mine who is 61 years old (and doesn't look it at all) made a "deal" with herself years ago. Both of her grandmothers and her mom died before they reached 60 and she vowed that if she made it past that age, she would do something a little daring like get a tattoo or piercing. She opted for the piercing and has one just like yours. She also happens to be one of the classiest ladies I know.

    I've been told that I don't look my age by a lot of people, and most of the time I don't feel it either. So I don't think it's about the numbers. I think it's about how you choose to live your life. I learn new things about myself every day because I choose to fight being sick and to live my life in a way that makes me truly happy. If that includes wearing jeans and hoodies then so be it!

    I hope you enjoy blogging as much as I'm beginning to, and you can count me as one of your followers! Pop in and say hello from time to time and I'll do the same! Just keep being who you are and don't let anyone tell you that you're too old for anything!

    Peace and Blessings,

  2. Hello! Your blog is pretty cool. Hold on to an idea and go forward, I'm sure we'll have good surprises here with you. Congratulations!

    I follow you with happiness.


  3. Hi Sherry, I don't know if there is a right way to behave either. I just go with what I feel. I turn 44 tomorrow...however, I had to ask my dh how old I am going to be. I don't really watch the numbers any more.

    I like your new blog!


    Following you from MBC

  4. Hi! cute blog :) (newest follower from MBC )

  5. Sheesh... I'm 53 and clearly I still don't know how to act or dress, because I like the same things you do. I had my cousins 20 something in shock that I could sing along w/ Kesha. I don't know who was more amazed.. her that I know the music or me that she could not imagine me listening to it. I dress young, I act young, I feel young... and I've been told I don't look my age but even if I did, I would still be me!!

    Enjoyed reading this and looking forward to following you.. we are kindred spirits, I think :) Thanks for following me at and I am your newest follower!

    Rock it, mom!! You got it going on!

  6. Hi. I am a new follower from OLS (donnak4).
    From another 40 something bloger. :)

  7. I am a firm believer, in you are as old or as young, as you feel, and to hell with numerics!

    I simply hate that, and labels...'Dressing too young?' Should we all pull out our granny drawers, and moo-moo's, once we hit a certain age, and if so, WHY? I don't buy it.

    I'm 35 going on 75 in life experience, but I dress like I'm a teenager still, I can still act like a big kid myself, which is fun for the kids, and in keeping me young, and I simply refuse to change who I am, because I'm getting older.

    I like you, don't feel my age, looking it, well, that part is debatable, of course my hubby says I do not, but seriously...dress as you wish, show off what you got while you got it.

    If you got great legs, sport your little skirts mama. We only go around this crazy life once, so don't let anyone bring you down.

    Cyber hugs, Shelly